While this is one of the most controversial topics facing the Lord's church today, it is one that we must not shy away from. It seems like we have a tendency to avoid certain topics in public, and yet in the quiet of our homes we discuss them at length. Topics addressed regularly in the pulpit rarely get as much of our personal discussion time as more sensitive topics. The problem with that approach is that there are many that need it to be addressed. Many thousands, perhaps millions, of Christians face the pains of divorce and the scars it leaves behind. All too often, these wounds remain open, festering to the point of spiritual infection, ultimately leaving an empty soul who cannot find peace in God's house.

This strange ability to avoid acknowledging the grace of God in certain situations is an affront to His word. It is not the model of redemption taught by Christ. It is not the embodiment of love that is emblazoned upon the pages of the New Testament. I will state my conclusion in advance in saying that there is a story of forgiveness and redemption for all who will come to Christ, even those who have suffered the agony of divorce.

From the start I want to be clear that I come from the ranks of the divorced and remarried. I'm not proud of that fact, and I recognize the sins of my past. I only state it here to be honest about my past, and because I don't want to be "found out" at some point in the future. In some ways, this puts me in a position to understand the pain that some (maybe some of you) have been through. I do understand that pain intimately. I can truly sympathize with not only the physical and emotional agony of torn families and broken commitments, but more importantly with the spiritual struggle to be acceptable to God. I want more than anything to be faithful to His will.

Naturally, I can also hear the jeers from some. "Well of course he believes in forgiveness after divorce, he needs it." To those I have two responses. First, who among us doesn't need forgiveness? If murderers, liars, thieves, child molesters, rapists, and armed robbers can be forgiven, then so can I. Second, I do want forgiveness and the compassion of Christ, but I also recognize that it will come only through and according to His will. I'm not foolish or arrogant enough to think that my desire alone is enough to provide redemption. I recognize that His will for me, as expressed through His word, is paramount. With that in mind, I have worked and studied hard to be honest with the text. I only hope we can all do the same.